8 Plus Sized Women Who Slay...And We Are Here For Them All!

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When you came to get married...and to slay.

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1. Thick thighs really do, in fact, bring all the boys to the yard. They also cause friction and over time destroy the inner thigh area of our jeans/jeggings/leggings. Sucks.

 2. Our boobs are magical and constantly perform tricks of optical illusion. On the surface they’re soft, wonderful mounds of fleshy goodness. Beneath the surface they are sweating their balls off and require powder of some sort to keep the chafing away.

 3. These same boobs are also heavy as hell and often cause indentures on our flesh due to the strainage of our bra straps holding them up. And you thought your job was hard? Go figure.

 4. We often test the sturdiness of a man or chair before putting our full weight on him/them. We’d like to be confident that they can securely hold our bodies before we get 100% comfortable.

*For the rest of this hilarious & comprehensive list, go on over the original article posted on Buzzfeed.

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What Is "Big Pretties"?

Established in February of 2014- Big Pretties also known as Big Pretties & Gents is an organization of fuller figured and larger stature men and women- also the people who love them. BP&G's, as it is affectionately called, started off as "like" page on Facebook. The page focused on the celebration of larger body types and the inclusion of this class into society in an attempt to normalize what is often ostracized. Quickly gaining momentum, the page spun off into a private group. What would happen next is nothing short of amazing! Within this private group relationships were built, friendships were formed, and it's members blurred the lines of the internet and started to meet in the flesh.

Since inception this group has laughed with one another, cried with one another, celebrated the other's successes and tolerated their failures.  We have seen personal milestones met, romantic relationships built, babies born, children graduating school, and have even loss members due to death.  In true family fashion there have been falling outs, rivalries made and mended and some relationships tattered. What has never wavered is the overall tone of the movement- a safe no judgement zone where members are free to just "be".

The freedom to express ourselves through the written and/or spoken word, the clothing that we choose to wear or lack thereof, the differences in our backgrounds, religious beliefs, even how we rear our children has only brought us closer together.  We are not the typical group of plus sized groups online. BP&G's are not overtly sexual, we do not bash and degrade people who fit the demographic of what is deemed a "normal" weight and/or body type in an attempt to feel more secure with ourselves. Nor is the focus solely on our weight.

What we are is a group of people who accept one another (flaws and all), motivate and inspire each other to strive for our personal bests in all aspects of life. The genuine respect and love for our fellow group members is what has sustained our relationships and has ultimately made this movement what it is.

You know how no matter where you go in life there is always that one place on earth with folks who will love and accept you for what you are, where you are with no question? That's what Big Pretties is. It is home.

Your Friends & Family Are Making You Fat!

Unless you've been living under a rock, I'm sure that you've heard the old saying "birds of a feather flock together".  Take a look at the people that are the closest to you, the people who you talk to the most, spend the most time with, and pour into.  These people help to make you the person that you are, knowingly or unknowingly.  Their mannerisms, speech, habits, and characteristics- no matter how small in detail- become apart of your person.  You ever said/did something and had to laugh to yourself because that was such a "insert name" like thing to have said/done? We all have, it's unavoidable. Your eating habits are no different.

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You ever told someone in your family how you were watching your weight, on a diet, or lifestyle change and magically everything that you cannot resist appears?  You want some of whatever "it" is and verbalize it or have stared it down like you wanted to fight it and then someone says "a little bit ain't gonna hurt" or "go ahead and have some, you know you want some" or "you can start over tomorrow" and the damned list goes on and on and on!  You contemplate having some or not having some and while you're thinking everyone else is eating and you're stuck between a delicious caloric heaven and a fat place.  What to do? Eff it, you have some! Since you've now had some you throw the rest of the "diet" out of the window and say to hell with it and eat your ass off.  Now you're defeated, still fat, and depressed. And the cycle continues.

Or maybe your circle is the type to celebrate only with eating.  No one is going anywhere other than a restaurant to have a good time and you damn sure didn't get pretty to suck on salad all night long. Once again your better judgement has gone out of the window and you're back to square one.  Or maybe you've got that one pessimistic friend or family member who automatically shuts any type of diet/cut back down because she just knows for sure that she just cannot do it.  She speaks with such an authority and confidence that you believe her and subconciously sides with her, now you've rationalized her truth-made it yours-and you're still not making any changes. Mind you, said friend/family will often complain that she wishes she was x amount of lbs. smaller, or that she really wants to lose weight. How?

Now, if weight loss isn't your goal that's perfectly fine! If it is, you've got to be mindful of who you allow into your spirit.  Feeding your body is so much more than nutrient rich food, it is spirit and emotional food too. And it is a constant battle!!! You are in the fight of your life on a daily basis against temptation, against peer pressure, against your own will.  Will you give up some days & say eff it? Absolutely! Will you get tired of not indulging and treat yourself from time to time, maybe even too often? Yes indeed! But what you won't do is keep letting someone else who doesn't have to live with the results determine what your feed into yourself.  Remember this-we are all struggling with something.  Why not have people in your circle who want to help you fight?

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It's a common misconception that Big Pretties aren't healthy and/or that we do not workout.  That is the furthest from the truth! True indeed some of us do love, and I do mean LOVE, to indulge in a great carb filled meal and also excellent fatty snacks.  Who doesn't? I wont mention that some of us are not on a strict dietary nor workout regime. Which doesn't necessarily aid in the reduction of the wingage. I just made that word up btw. 

Then there's those of us who have lost a significant amount of weight in a relatively short amount of time. Maybe during said weight loss we did not workout, or didn't workout our arms properly causing the dreaded (at least for me) disease named Bat Wings. Bat Wings is the condition of "extra" skin or skin that has lost it's elasticity thus moves freely like the wing of a bat.  It sucks.  

In addition to already having some kind of issues with our bodies, not unlike any other body type, bat wings can cause a Pretty to not even want to wear short or sleeveless tops. There is a resolve for this! Some Pretties have gone the surgical route (arm lifting and/or tucking), some have gone the workout route.  Either route, or none at all -because you give no damns- are perfect! Me on the other hand am absolutely terrified of going under the knife and want to reduce my wingage. 

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Deciding that I was going to challenge myself to actually do something more than just think about the reduction of my wings, I came across this little gem. It looks easy enough.  Plus, it is more than what I do to increase elasticity right now.  To be totally honest, it will be (because I have yet to do anything about the wingage) the only thing that I will do increase elasticity. Hell, don't judge me. 

Anywho, I am wondering if any of my Pretties would participate in doing this with me for the next 30 days?  Even if we only do one repetition of the routine per day (or night) until we get in the swing of it and increase as our bodies and minds see fit, I believe that we should see some type of results. 

Let me know what you think!

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***In the very 1st blog post I mentioned that Big Pretties a.k.a Big Pretties & Gents are not overtly sexual. How ironic is it that in the very next damn post that this is the topic-SEX.***

  So many times as women of size we often put limitations on ourselves sexually.  We (not all, but more than enough) think that because we look like this, or are shaped like that, or weigh this amount that we cannot do certain things when it comes to pleasing our lovers in the bedroom. The key word here is think.  That's where we all go wrong, it's all in our heads!

Have you ever stopped to think....there's that word again....that by the time it's time to do the deed that that man or woman if that's your thing is hardly concerned about what the number on the scale says?  They- like you- have already made a conscious decision to engage in body to body contact honey.  And like the old folks use to say; "Everybody is the same size laying down". Hmph. But I digress.....

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So often we deprive ourselves of maximum pleasure because we do not do enough! In conversation with some other Big Pretties, some don't or simply won't ride the D.  Complaints of discomfort, I've been guilty of this one, or a Big Pretty thinking that her lover will be uncomfortable under her weight, or maybe even feeling insecure if she has a gut has limited her experience.  I don't know what the view is like but I'm almost certain that the sight of a beautiful woman on top of him with a soft body and breasts bouncing as she's working his body in and out of hers is not a turn off to him. But what do I know?

Maybe you've been in a position -no pun- where you didn't feel totally comfortable with having sex doggie style. Let's be really real here, when he's putting in that work our soft bodies sometimes jiggle. He AIN'T mad. Trust me. Nothing turns a man on more than seeing that ass jiggle as he's going to town. Nothing. Nine times out of ten he's stroking his ego at that fact that he can make your body convulse ultimately making him go harder. Why? Because you're a big girl- you can take it.

Anywho, to avoid a post penned as soft porn and to stay on topic the bottom line is this: When it is time to engage in grown folk activities between two consenting adults, each partner has their own thoughts about their performance.  He's in his head too, but not about what you think. It's no easy task making love to a woman of size, there is a certain skill set that has to be involved. He's hoping he's got enough stamina, that he can make your experience enjoyable. Hopefully you're unselfish lovers and want to please each other.  Don't kill your own vibe by focusing on your flaws and insecurities, the world does enough of that, just enjoy the skin you're in. Enjoy the skin he's in. It makes for a beautiful time had by all.

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